tips and questions?

Hey! Thank you so much for coming to read this question! My husband and I have set up a "date" (AKA time) in a few days, and I want some tips on how to make the most of it. We ARE married and over 25, so don't say I'm too young. First, should I use a vibrator WHILE having or on my own time? From your experience, should I be on the top or bottom position at first? I realize that everyone's different and we all have different things that turn us on, but what is a common turn-on while having ? Should the lights be dimmed or well-lit? Should there be music in the backgorund? If so, how loud should it be and what type of music should it be (for the most romantic experience)? This is my second time having , as the first time was with a different partner and I realized he was a big mistake. If you could please answer all of the questions or just a few, that will be appreciated! ALSO! Just some common tips for turning your partner on, or just some regular tips for getting s quicker or making him quicker...! Once again, thanks!